How IFS Parts Work Can Help You Overcome Perfectionism and Inner Conflict

Tanya Master
Sep 26, 2024
2 min read

Updated: Jul 9

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Do you ever feel like different parts of yourself are in conflict? Maybe one part is ready to move forward, while another sabotages with criticism, fear, or perfectionism. These inner struggles are more common than you think, and often rooted in deeper internal dynamics.

IFS Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) offers a powerful way to understand and resolve these conflicts. As a psychosomatic coach, I work with clients who feel stuck, scattered, or trapped in cycles of overthinking, procrastination, or burnout. And time and again, it comes down to this: their parts are at odds.

Perfectionism Is More Than Just High Standards

Perfectionism doesn’t always look like ambition. Sometimes it looks like paralysis. Or self-sabotage. Or never letting yourself rest.

In many of my clients—and in myself—perfectionism shows up in two main ways:

Paralysis or procrastination: The fear of doing it wrong leads to not doing it at all.
Overworking and burnout: A relentless internal pressure to do more, better, faster.

What IFS Parts Work Teaches Us About Inner Conflict

Parts aren’t trying to sabotage you. They’re trying to help, often in outdated ways. In IFS Parts Work, we learn to listen to each part—especially the ones that feel frustrating or confusing—with compassion.

For example, when we slow down to listen, we might find out:

The creative part isn’t trying to procrastinate—it’s tired of being pushed aside.
The perfectionist isn’t cruel—it’s trying to protect you from failure or shame.

When these parts are heard, acknowledged, and witnessed, they can shift. They can begin to trust each other. And that’s when movement becomes possible.

How IFS and Somatic Coaching Can Help You Move Forward

IFS therapy and somatic parts work create a space for your inner system to reorganise. Instead of pushing through or trying to “fix” perfectionism, we pause. We listen. We bring all parts of you into the conversation—including the ones that have been driving your nervous system into overdrive.

This work isn’t about eliminating parts. It’s about building trust between them. And that’s what creates real freedom—both creatively and emotionally.